People claim that they fell in love, and that they fell out of love... so when they finish their falling and land subsequently looking around all dazed and confused what then? If the result of that falling was heartbreak, would they in turn sue gravity for the “falling” part of love? People don't simply fall in love, it doesn't just happen. No, it's not like in the movies. You don't fall in love at first sight. That is Hollywood, not reality. Adoration? admiration? Yes perhaps you can feel a form of adorationwhen you first see someone. But you do NOT magically fall in love. It happens over time completely out of one's control. You don't control who you feel emotionally tied to.
Over time every person you meet will be the victim of your falling in love with them. Be it in the romantic sense, familial, or artistic sense. You have the love a person has for their significant other. The obsession (addiction) for a specific artist, musician, or.. fill in the blank. We love our parents-- hopefully most of us do to some extent - that is a developed love. We love them as a sort of dependence on them. Yes I know I probably am getting disapproving glares from some out there reading this.. but it is true if you think of it.
Coming out of the womb we are entirely dependant on our parents. True or false? True-- well unless you were some sort of super baby that can change and feed yourself.. it ought to be true. We reach out our grasping little fingers at anything that will give comfort. When a baby starts to distinguish people by sound or sight they will reach out and keep screaming like a banshi until who ever spent the most time with him or her comes to their rescue with either a clean diaper or a bottle. So, whether we want to admit it or not the basis of one's love for their parents simply is dependency. However, when someone “falls” in love with another.. in the romantic sense... that is a form of dependence and addiction as well.
When you love someone in the romantic sense it pretty much ends in the shackles we come to know as wedding bands. Oh yes.. those over priced circles of metal that mean I am his.. I am hers. Love in short is an addiction on several different levels. Marriage is the ultimate representation of total dependence on the other. When a marriage dissolves all the way down to figuring out who keeps the tacky coffee table, the addiction part of marriage; the feeling of needing the other; pretty much expired. Yes I know that is cold... but it is true. Making that leap of faith; that ends up with wedding debts that the lucky duo will spend a good amount of time paying off; is the mixing of addiction and dependence. How is romantic love a sort of addiction? Well, when two people feel they can't get enough of each other's company... that is an addiction my friends. That just overwhelming feeling that you simply want to see that person again, that something is missing if they are not in your day to day life.
The want, or need to have that person in your life as long as you both shall live, or until one kills the other for some form of deception, because you simply “can't see life without him(her)” is dependence and addiction wrapped up all in one. Love all in all is a label for a state of NOT being. Yes, NOT being... unable to BE without a specific person. Some call it obsession... others call it love... I call it a form of addiction. Whatever you call it do not turn the obsession or addition into stalking... or you might be getting some unwanted love from a cellmate.
