About how open people choose to be with one another.
Everyone needs a support system at some point in their lives. Usually a best friend or most of the time a relative, but how often have you felt that it may be easier to work things out logically and emotionally on your own? In an essence people need each other even though at the end of it all we still make the final decisions. So do you keep the personal issues to yourself mostly because it’s too easy for people to feed on it with negativity? We all have secrets that the most of us can take to the grave. Nevertheless there are times when another person can view the problem from an objective point, which would assist in solving the dilemma. Yet in certain occasions one may feel that it wasn’t worth mentioning. Most people don’t want to face their own skeletons therefore they would chew on others if allowed. And is that being fair or simply judgmental? If people were more open and willing to exchange information, we would see how many things we have in common but at the same time our secrets could be used against us and such exposure can lead to shame and guilt depending on the situation.
Women are known for being “chatty” but men aren’t that far behind either. People talk regardless and let’s face it; the more drama involved the more interesting! But is it wrong exchanging stories when neither party knows of the other? How many times have you told your friend about your other friends sister cousin baby daddy? And isn’t it easier to spread other gossip but keep a tight lip about our personal lives when asked. Some people may not have anything too interesting going on so they depend on other stories to keep them entertained. Most may feel that it’s confidential and shouldn’t be for others to discuss. We all need some form of privacy certain things should remain behind closed doors. We have to use our discretion when sharing information. No one wants to share too much especially when a loved one is involved or to blame for the temporary heart break. But if we’re going to give a story and cut out pieces for protection of another person reputation, should we even tell the story all together? So how much of our business should we tell? I don’t know, you tell me?
There has to be a level of balance in the amount of things that we talk about. On one hand being too chatty is a negative, but at the same time you can not hold all of the info in because you need that therapy that is evoked by discussing matters with others. Good article.
